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Still, the fact remains that if you get involved with someone who hasn’t worked out their issues, there’s a very good possibility that it will lead to a long, drawn-out, confusing roller-coaster of relationship drama that will not end pretty.Hate to be blunt, but that’s the most likely scenario if he has a lot of unresolved issues from his breakup (or baggage, or loose ends, or whatever you want to call it.) If you can manage to step back gracefully and give him lots of space to really, truly work out his stuff, maybe in a month or two he’ll have it completely worked out and you two can start something on a virtually clean slate.This is one of those conversations that I hear people talking about all the time. They’re used to each other, they expect the other one to be there and their day-to-day lifestyles are intertwined.“Oh, she’s just a rebound,” “She just broke up, she’s looking for a rebound,” etc. When a relationship ends, there are all sorts of loose ends and areas of life that end up changing (depending on how closely connected these two people were.) The rebound happens when the guy or girl doesn’t address the loose ends and just seeks out another relationship to “shortcut” getting their life back into the order it was in before.He’s not going to bring that stuff up with you, but he might feel that if he talks with his ex it might lead to some inner-resolution. 3) You risk turning into his scapegoat, quasi-therapist or shoulder-to-cry-on while he works out his issues.I don’t mean to make this guy out to be a basket case, but if he was messed up from his break up, it’s a very good idea to stand back (far back) and let him work out his issues.I’m not just talking about finding a replacement girlfriend who can cook as well as well as the last one or is willing to do the same things with you the last one was.
Now, I’m not saying that there’s no way you can start dating him.
As long as you are in the relationship with him, he will be able to distract himself from dealing with the issues he really needs to deal with. When a guy hasn’t had a good amount of time to work out his issues, it’s very likely that he’ll go to the ex-girlfriend for one reason or another.
The main reason is that while he’s distracting himself with a new relationship, the unresolved stuff is eating away at him.
It doesn’t mean he’s a bad guy, or that you aren’t good enough or even that you aren’t good together.
Chances are, you probably do have some real chemistry together.